Showing posts with label a post actually about adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label a post actually about adoption. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Lions and Tigers and Bears...

Oh where to begin?! We have seriously slacked in the posting department (until dear hubby filled you all in on some details this afternoon), and now there is more to write than can possibly be written before my cold medicine kicks in and I start to nod off. Yes, it is just a cold. Well, one of the worst colds I have had (except that nasty virus I got over our anniversary - maybe my sister has poisoned me against going to the zoo!) I have had a fever, chills, sore throat, and congestion that started coming on yesterday. Thankfully not a stomach virus. Troy has been AMAZING!!! He says that the Lord struck me down to force him to spend time with the kids alone, and let me just say that he has really stepped up the plate - doing meals solo, dressing the kids, taking them to the bank so I could sleep, etc. I could not be more proud of him. And the kids, though they don't totally get it, keep saying "Mama es muy enferma!" (Mama is very sick!) I am on the upswing, but it has zapped my energy and caused my patience to wear very thin.

So what have we been doing over the last few days? On Sunday we went to the Metacaña Zoo, which is one of the largest zoos in South America. It was pretty amazing and nothing like any zoo you will see in the states. [AMANDA please feel free to skip this part - although, Sissy, you would be proud as to the fact that I was questioning some of this zoo's practices!] First off, you can feed the animals - zebras, monkeys, boar, etc... Second, you are only a few meters away from even the wilder animals like the lions. Third, the security seems to consist of some padlocks and that's about it. But the landscaping is to die for, and at several points you can see the Andes beyond the animal displays. It was pretty crazy. This was also our first test of walking for long periods of time with the boys. The twins seemed into it, but they must have been there before because about halfway through Samuel was over it and started doing all of the things that kids do when they are bored like not listening, attempting to wander off, etc... In Charlotte, we are going to borrow the Frey's new dog Ruthie who is part Border Collie to herd them when we go on treks like this.

At the end of the animal displays is this great playground, so we got to experience something truly joyous: watching our kids learn to play on playground equipment. The twins are afraid of everything so we are learning that they have not been exposed to much. I put Luis on the slide and he screamed the whole time and didn't want to go again. I put Daniel on the slide and I couldn't get him to stop wanting to go down the slide. In fact, he got to the point where he would climb the ladder by himself and didn't need me to be at the bottom - which got him in trouble on another slide in a different part of the playground where he landed on his butt and not his feet and proceeded to wail. I am so proud of his bravery though. Samuel was all over the place, trying everything out. I finally got Luis to relax and swing with me a bit, but it takes a lot of patience and "Estas bien"s ("You're OK") with him.

Yesterday, Troy took them to the bank which from what I understand was a disaster. Then we all went shopping in the afternoon, and that is when I knew that I was sicker than I thought because I was at the end of my rope with patience by the time we woke up from siesta I was burning up with fever and aching all over. And today I spent pretty much in bed while Troy was #1 caretaker. And it was raining AGAIN! It rains A LOT here. I hate to say it, but I am thankful for drought-riddled Charlotte because rain = no going outside = cooped up in the hotel with 3 boys = no fun for anyone, especially mama and papa.

All in all, we are doing well. We measure our days by mealtimes. We still feel very much like we are babysitting someone else's kids. Raul Velez Velez, the Colombia Adoption Program Director for Commonwealth Adoptions (our agency), called today to talk to Troy and said that "one day the kids will adopt you too." We look forward to that day and know that right now it is just plain awkward for all of us.

Like Troy said, tomorrow is our Integration meeting which is where we go back to the Social Services office to talk about how we are doing, how the kids are doing, etc... After that, the legal process begins and we will wait for the judge to issue the adoption decree (Sentencia). All we really have to do is hang out and continue to get to know these boys. Hopefully soon I will be able to post about their personalities to help you all get to know them a little better because they are each so unique and amazing. Until then, here are some zoo and miscellaneous pics from the last few days:


Our first (and only) family portrait.


Troy, Samuel and Daniel feeding the zebras.


Me and Luis watching one of the African elephants. Luis really likes elephants...probably not nearly as much as me.


The boys getting food from José our driver/tour guide for the day. He works for Rosario, but is available to take us anywhere we need which is great. The drawback is that he doesn't speak English, but Troy's Spanish is getting better everyday. Believe it or not so is mine. José asked Troy a question and I understood it before he did.


Our monkeys feeding the monkeys! How fitting!


This is the backside of the ostrich pen, but they are hilarious because they keep poking their heads up over the wall. Too, too funny!


Samuel had no trouble having a ball at the playground. He loves to play.


The twins are addicted to soup. Here is Daniel in his giant, catch-all bib. We still have to tuck a napkin under his chin because more food ends up on him than in him. He is a total mess, but he clears his plate/bowl.


After the zoo, we stopped for some traditional Colombian fare. Before we came here, I was really worried about what I was going to eat. I even emailed my friend Sheila Derr for advice. Let me tell you, as a pure, vegetable-hating carnivore, I am in paradise. I get yummy meat at every meal! This restaurant we ate at served barbeque (not carolina style) and it was so delicious. I asked for cow... I think I had cow.


Troy on the other hand had this unidentified pork... I am still hoping I had cow.


The twins. Luis on the left. Daniel on the right. And I did a crazy, but necessary thing this week - I sent their blankets to be washed (gasp!) Naptime yesterday and today and bedtime last night was a little rough, but we got through it. Fortunately, the blankets are back so they are sleeping peacefully. I apologize to my Mommy for all of the pain I caused her where my Poocoos was concerned!

Thursday, January 31, 2008

Still just waiting...

I think that knowing that we are closer to getting a referral makes waiting that much harder. Though we have no real timeline or deadline, it is the not knowing that's driving me crazy. It is nearly impossible to have a balanced life in the midst of waiting for something so big. I feel like I have allowed myself to get lost in my work more because it makes the days go by so fast. If there weren't a writer's strike going on, I would be camped out with my DVR much more often. Although I greatly appreciate all of the encouragement about how we should enjoy this time to ourselves, Troy and I have had nearly five years of sleeping in, eating out, enjoying the freedom of travelling whenever we choose, and date nights without worrying about finding a sitter. But with that five years also comes the comfort of routine and the constant longing for something more...We are ready for our world to be flipped upside down. We are ready (so to speak) for diapers and feedings and getting less sleep (in all fairness Baxter wakes us up at 3:30 AM every morning--when he is awake, everyone else should be too). We are ready for our house to be filled to the brim with kids and dogs. I look forward to having toys everywhere and little kids clothes to wash. I look forward to going to the park and cooking meals for five. I know that our becoming parents will in no way complete us or make us whole, but it will catapult us into the next phase of life that we have been preparing for since we took our vows. So, for all of the nay-sayers who think we are crazy to bring three children into our home all at once, please keep in mind that this is what we were created for.

Thursday, January 24, 2008

With one big leap of faith...

...we are "officially" kicking off of our fundraising efforts. This is an extremely scary process. Troy and I are very self-reliant and would much rather pay for everything ourselves than have to ask anyone for anything. The reality of our adoption, however, is that we simply can't afford the entire cost on our own. It is a very humbling situation to be in for two particular reasons: 1) it is a true test of our faith in God's provision and 2) we are put in the awkward position of having to ask our family and friends to help us "pay" for our children (so to speak).

Skeptics may ask why we are attempting to adopt without having the entire cost already saved up. Our answer is simple, we believe that we are doing what we are meant to do at the exact moment we are meant to do it. When we made the switch from pursuing our children medically to pursuing our children through adoption, we did so with A LOT of prayer. There is no doubt in our hearts or minds that we have been specifically called to adopt...three siblings...from Colombia...right now.

Over the next few days, some of you will receive packets in the mail that contain a letter and some other information. We ask that you prayerfully consider what your role - if any - in our adoption may be. Some of you who are able may want to donate a monetary gift. Some of you who are true prayer warriors may know how and what to pray for us. Please know that however you feel you can help is truly of great help to us. The most important thing we hope you will get out of this post is that we don't want you to feel obligated. We also want to assure our faithful readers that the posts from here on out will not be solely about fundraising (thought updates will be given!)

If anyone is interested in receiving a packet of information on our fundraising efforts or if you have any questions, please send one of us an email. I am working on how to get all of the information up on our blog. And though this is a scary time for us, it is also extremly exciting. We have been waiting months to start this process and are so joyful to be entering this phase of the adoption.

Love,
Andrea (andrealwe@yahoo.com) and
Troy (taeisenberger@yahoo.com)

Monday, July 23, 2007

Why Colombia?

Well, if you are a regular blog reader (yeah, I'm talking to you Jimmy Vandal) you have been harrassing me to update our blog after the promise in our last post to write something that didn't have to do with NASCAR. Have you ever been lied to since the end of Back to the Future promised a quick sequel?...So here is a post on something that was immensly educational for us, so hopefully it is a fraction of that for you. Well, blog readers....start your proverbial engines.

To answer the "Why Colombia?" question, and starting the timeline after we decided to adopt in the first place, we had to pick between domestic vs. international.

We chose international adoption, to be honest, because we were tired of uncertainty. Domestic adoption problems are MUCH more rare than is conveyed by the mass media, but domestic adoption still has its unique issues. That being said, @ the end of the international adoption road was a child (or two...) for us, and after a few years of doubting if we will ever be parents, that was all we needed to know.

Once we decided on international, the big question became where. We quickly learned that a very big world gets reduced to a much smaller one, once you consider 1) countries that allow for international adoption.....and 2) the various rules that they employ.

A quick glance around the world reduced our search quite quickly....

Canada - Closed to non-resident adoption.

Nepal - We were too young.










Ethiopia - We haven't been married long enough.


Nebraska
With no regard to Andrea or Troy's heritage.....not a country. Didn't know that? Yeah...me neither. I told you in this first paragraph how educational this would be.




We ended up with a list that included Guatemala, Colombia, and South Korea. Guatemala and Colombia were close geographically, but not in price range, with Guatelmala costing much more. The last decision was one of South Korea v. Colombia, and in the end we went with the country we could visit the most throughout our child's life.

So there you go...part process of elimination, part chasing after what we knew in our hearts we needed to do, and the rest just hope and trust.